December is always a whirlwind month! There’s the shopping, decorating, wrapping, baking… plus concerts, parties and the visit to Santa. Not to mention, a mom’s year-round duties don’t stop during the holidays. There’s still cooking, cleaning and chauffeuring to do!
Now that the month (and the year) are winding down, take a moment to stop thinking about everyone else around you and focus on yourself. It’s time to make some New Year’s Mom-solutions!
Here are a few ideas for moms in 2017:
Don’t Phone It In
Family time is a gift, and it’s all too easy to miss it because your face is buried in some form of technology. I know moms who insist the family dinner table is a phone-free zone. I know another mom who just needed to uninstall her favorite app because her Facebook feed was distracting her from the faces in front of her. I know you’ve heard it before, but it’s true. That email can wait so your kids get your full attention.
“The best thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.” Author John Wooden wrote these words, and, trust me, it goes both ways. My husband and I make it a point to strengthen our relationship by spending time together, just the two of us. Whether it’s a weekend getaway, a dinner out or an intentional date night at home after the kids go to bed, make time to strengthen your relationship with your partner in 2017.
And I mean pitch it – as in throw it away! No family is perfect, and accepting that may be the key to finding happiness. A study from the University of Washington found women who believe they can be SuperMom are at a greater risk of depression than moms who admit they can’t do it all. So, leave the dishes sit in the sink; let the kids wear pajamas to the grocery store; even (gasp!) turn on the TV for a relaxing movie night. Work hard and do your best, but don’t demand perfection from your family or yourself.
Make a Judgement-Free Zone
Since we’re giving ourselves permission to be imperfect, let’s give other moms the same courtesy. Whether we’re debating breast vs. bottle feeding, sleep training methods, TV time or any other parenting topic, it’s so easy to get caught up in the “right” way to do things. Give your fellow mom some grace. She’s trying, just like you are. After all, we’re all in this crazy parenting thing together!
Happy New Year!